HAPPIEST TODDLER ON (REV ED)(ISBN=) 英文原版

　　Toddlers can drive you bonkers…so adorable and fun one
minute…so stubborn and demanding the next! Yet, as unbelievable as
it sounds, there is a way to turn the daily stream of “nos” and
“don’ts” into “yeses” and hugs…if you know how to speak your
toddler’s language. In one of the most useful advances in parenting
techniques of the past twenty-five years, Dr. Karp reveals that
toddlers, with their immature brains and stormy outbursts, should
be thought of not as pint-size people but as
pintsize…cavemen.
　　Having noticed that the usual techniques often failed to calm
crying toddlers, Dr. Karp discovered that the key to effective
communication was to speak to them in their own primitive language.
When he did, suddenly he was able to soothe their outbursts almost
every time! This amazing success led him to the realization that
children between the ages of one and four go through four stages of
“evolutionary” growth, each linked to the development of the brain,
and each echoing a step in prehistoric humankind’s journey to
civilization:
　　? The “Charming Chimp-Child” (12 to 18 months): Wobbles around on
two legs, grabs everything in reach, plays a nonstop game of
“monkey see monkey do.”
　　? The “Knee-High Neanderthal” (18 to 24 months): Strong-willed,
fun-loving, messy, with a vocabulary of about thirty words, the
favorites being “no” and “mine.”
　　? The “Clever Caveman” (24 to 36 months):
　　Just beginning to learn how to share, make friends, take turns,
and use the potty.
　　? The “Versatile Villager” (36 to 48 months): Loves to tell
stories, sing songs and dance, while trying hard to behave.
　　To speak to these children, Dr. Karp has developed two
extraordinarily effective techniques:
　　1) The “fast food” rule—restating what your child has said to
make sure you got it right;
　　2) The four-step rule—using gesture, repetition, simplicity, and
tone to help your
　　irate Stone-Ager be happy again.
　　Once you’ve mastered “toddler-ese,” you will be ready to apply
behavioral techniques specific to each stage of your child’s
development, such as teaching patience and calm, doing time-outs
(and time-ins), praise through “gossiping,” and many other
strategies. Then all the major challenges of the toddler
years—including separation anxiety, sibling rivalry, toilet
training, night fears, sleep problems, picky eating, biting and
hitting, medicine taking — can be handled in a way that will make
your toddler feel understood. The result: fewer tantrums, less
yelling, and, best of all, more happy, loving time for you and your
child.

　　Harvey Karp, M.D., is an assistant professor of pediatrics at
the UCLA School of Medicine, with a private practice in Santa
Monica. Author of The Happiest Baby on the Block, Dr. Karp
is a nationally renowned expert in child development, children’s
health and the environment, and breastfeeding. He lives with his
wife and daughter in California.