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开 本: 16开纸 张: 胶版纸包 装: 精装是否套装: 否国际标准书号ISBN: 9780345507891
on his or her own as an adult? Does your high school junior seem
oblivious to the challenges that lie ahead? Does your academically
successful nineteen-year-old still expect you to “just take care
of” even the most basic life tasks?
Welcome to the stunted world of the Endless Adolescence. Recent
studies show that today’s teenagers are more anxious and stressed
and less independent and motivated to grow up than ever before.
Twenty-five is rapidly becoming the new fifteen for a generation
suffering from a debilitating “failure to launch.” Now two
preeminent clinical psychologists tell us why and chart a
groundbreaking escape route for teens and parents.
Drawing on their extensive research and practice, Joseph Allen and
Claudia Worrell Allen show that most teen problems are not
hardwired into teens’ brains and hormones but grow instead out of a
“Nurture Paradox” in which our efforts to support our teens by
shielding them from the growth-spurring rigors and rewards of the
adult world have backfired badly. With compelling examples and
practical and profound suggestions, the authors outline a novel
approach for producing dramatic leaps forward in teen maturity,
including
? Turn Consumers into Contributors Help teens experience adult
maturity–its bumps and its joys–through the right kind of
employment or volunteer activity.
? Feed Them with Feedback Let teens see and hear how the larger
world perceives them. Shielding them from criticism–constructive or
otherwise–will only leave them unequipped to deal with it when they
get to the “real world.”
? Provide Adult Connections Even though they’ll deny it, teens
desperately need to interact with adults (including parents) on a
more mature level–and such interaction will help them
blossom!
? Stretch the Teen Envelope Do fewer things for teens that they can
do for themselves, and give them tasks just beyond their current
level of competence and comfort.
Today’s teens are starved for the lost fundamentals they need to
really grow: adult connections and the adult rewards of autonomy,
competence, and mastery. Restoring these will help them unlearn
their adolescent helplessness and grow into adults who can make
you–and themselves–proud.
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